Murray UU Church | 505 North Main St | Attleboro, MA 02703
May 10, 2018


. . .

"This is to Mother You: Stories of Nuturing and Being Nutured"

Religious Services Committee

We are cared for, and care for others, in so many different ways. On this Mother's Day, members of the Murray community reflect on all of those who play the role of nurturer in various aspects of our lives.

. . .



"Our Bridging Ceremony: Changes"

Rev. Gretchen Weis

It's that time of year when we pause to celebrate those high school seniors who will be graduating this spring, and to celebrate those junior high school students who will be bridging up into the high school youth group.  The service will be co-lead by Kavita Vansant, our Director of Lifespan Religious Education, and members of the youth group and their teachers, around the theme of changes.

. . .
If you missed a service, or simply would like to listen to a particular sermon again, our sermons are now available on our website and are downloadable as MP3 files. Use our website link below and click on the sermon link at the top of the page and either listen or download the sermon of your choice. You can also access current and back issues of Murray Notes. Just click on the Church News link. Thanks to Bill Jones for working on these projects!
. . .
Quick Links

. . .


Us on


We are a Welcoming

Click here to view
Our Calendar:

Murray Church Office



 The Church That Doesn't Matter
  by Rev. Gretchen Weis
I came across this reflection, written by my friend and colleague, Kelly Weisman Asprooth-Jackson, and it certainly got my attention. I wanted to share a shortened, adapted version of it with you. See what you think:
In the church that doesn't matter, there are no quarrels, no arguments, and
no one ever says anything they regret at the meeting. There is never any
controversy because no one ever says anything they really care about, and
no one else ever seems to care. That makes everything easy as pie.

In the church that doesn't matter, no one ever disagrees with the preacher's
sermon. The music is always just fine. There is never a fight about the liturgy,
not even if they do joys and sorrows (and not even if they stop doing joys and
sorrows.) There is nothing to inspire passionate intensity because none of the
decisions of the church touch anyone's heart. 

In the church that doesn't matter, no one has to ask for money, or even talk
about it much, for there is always enough to go around. There is always enough,
because no matter how much money there is, there is always less to do with it.
The vision always shrinks to under-match the means. So canvass season is
always a breeze. 

The sounds of children during worship, the recruitment of Sunday School
teachers, the compensation of a professional religious educator and the size
and condition of the space designated for RE - none of these things are ever
talked about or thought about in the church that doesn't matter. Those issues
just take care of themselves somehow. 

No one ever has to clean up in the church that doesn't matter. Or figure out
the old electrical system, or consult the building codes, or climb a ladder. If
no one bothers to make coffee on Sunday, no one complains, and if no one
greets the visitors, no one seems to mind. Whatever you do, do not let yourself
care about the people around you, or the covenant you share. It's easier that
way, in the church that doesn't matter. 

But in the church that DOES matter, we come together and decide again and
again to ask tough questions, take real risks, do the work that needs doing,
and tell the truth. We get out of bed on Sunday morning, answer that email,
make something for coffee hour or the bake sale and give our time and
attention to a meeting every third Thursday. 

We ask each other how we're doing, and mean it. We make phone calls and
craft projects for the first-graders - we offer our gifts, both humble and great.
And we do these things, sometimes in joy, and sometimes not in joy, because
they are done in service of a church, a beloved community that matters,
very much.

Murray is a church that matters. Here, we find the courage to ask tough questions, to listen to one another's truths with respect and love. We make room for and celebrate our differences. Here, our children matter and we create vital, healthy programs to help challenge, nurture and guide them as they develop into responsible, caring, healthy, ethically grounded youth, teens and young adults. 


Nursery is available from 9:45 am -- 11 am. The nursery is located in the Religious Education Wing and is the first room on the left.
Children (Grades K - 8):
Sunday, May 13th -- Mother's Day Spirit Group. We will begin in the service and then head to the Unity Room to make gifts for our moms.
Youth Group (Grades 9 - 12):
Friday, May 11th -- UUnited Bridging Ceremony in Taunton from 7 pm -- 9 pm. This will be the last UUnited for the church year.

Sunday, May 13th -- A Place of Wholeness -- topic will be Tolerance. Class starts at 10 am.


Jun. 9:                           SAVE THE DATE!!!
Spring Into Summer Fundraising Dinner

Saturday, June 9th 6:30 pm in Murray Church Fellowship Hall
We hope to see you there!!!
100 PERCENT of the dinner proceeds go to Murray Church.

 YES!! Due to the generosity of an anonymous Donor who will pay for the meal,
our church receives all of the money.

Come join Murray Church as we KICK-OFF the SUMMER with a delicious buffet on Saturday evening, June 9th, 2018 at 6:30 pm. The evening will begin with a social hour and a catered dinner by Morin's Hometown Bar & Grille. Tickets are $25 per person. Beer and wine will be available for a small donation. 

We will also include a raffle of some of our  favorite auction items.

You could win your very own "up front " parking spot for church services, a special choice of a sermon topic by Rev. Gretchen, or the music for a service, just to name a few.

 But We Need You To Participate !!!

Come, and invite your family and friends! 


If you require childcare, please contact Kavita at
no later than May 20th.

Tickets will be on sale at coffee hour.

From the Caring Circle

Caring by Cooking: We Need Frozen Meals

Inviting all cooks to consider making a larger quantity of soup or complete meal and packaging it for Mrs. Murray's freezer. Freezer meals are available for Murray members and friends who find themselves in difficult and challenging life situations and for whom a break from cooking would be a big help. Diabetic-friendly and low sodium meals are especially appreciated at this time. Washable disposable deli and take-out containers make perfect receptacles. Please label your donation with contents, date, your name if you wish, and Caring Circle and put them in the upright freezer in Fellowship Hall. For questions and to have your donation added to our inventory please contact Barbara Clark, 508-222-6164,
Camperships Available

Summer will be here before we know it! Are you interested in attending a UU camp or retreat center this summer or fall? Camperships are available to supplement expenses for Murray Church members of any age. Ferry Beach, Star Island and Rowe Camp are some of the places that Murray members have attended in the past. Information on the camps is available on their websites and from our DLRE, Kavita Vansant. Applications are available from Kavita and must be returned by May 31st, 2018. For an application, please click [HERE].

Murray UU Church Scholarships Available
Limited funds are available from the scholarship funds for this church year. The Scholarship Fund is administered by the Board of Deacons and Deaconesses. It is used to award scholarships to any member in good standing, following one full year of membership, for purposes of attending educational courses or training programs approved by this Board.  For example, it could be applied toward registration fees for attending UU General Assembly in June. Applications should be submitted to the Board of Deacons and Deaconesses for approval. Please contact Donna Cooke at for additional guidelines and to obtain an application.
Murray RE

Top left: The Youth Group puts together the cover photo for the Bridging Ceremony. Top right: Our Greeters last Sunday -- they did a great job! Photo above: Our children learn about soil from Carla Rissmeyer.

Murray Treasures Luncheon


Annual Murray Treasures Luncheon celebrating our beloved elders was a huge success! Special thanks to the Caring Circle.
Volunteer for Coffee Hour...

If you like coffee, yummy snacks or just enjoy meeting new people, please consider 

volunteering for coffee hour. 

To sign-up, please click [HERE]

If you are new or if you need a refresher, step-by-step instructions and friendly hands-on training 
and/or buddies are all available. Goodies may 
be bought or baked. 

It's easy! It doesn't require a lot of extra time (show up at 9 am to get the coffee going and setup, clean up takes about 1/2 an hour) and we really need volunteers! Let's keep Murray members and friends caffeinated and in the happy zone.
Contact Monica Weil at or call/text 401-441-8999

or Barbara Clark at

 Murray Food Pantry 
Donations Needed:
    • Feminine Care Products
    • Personal Care Items
    • Bathroom Tissue
Thank you for your continued support! 
Murray Church Food Pantry Team 
May 16 & 20:

In the next two weeks, we will be holding two meetings to discuss the possibility of hanging a Black Lives Matter banner at our church.

~ You are welcome to participate in either or both meetings ~
Wednesday, May 16th, 7 pm:  
BLM Banner Committee meeting in the John Murray Room
This is a planning meeting, in preparation for the Town Hall Meeting. This is our second committee meeting, and we will continue our conversation on the issues related to hanging a Black Lives Matter banner on our church.


Sunday, May 20th, 11:30 am:  
All Church Town Hall discussion to explore hanging a Black Lives Matter banner
at Murray Church in the Unity Room

This is a whole-church meeting in which we will discuss both the possible positive and negative outcomes of hanging a BLM banner at Murray Church.


The Black Lives Matter Banner Committee is a partner committee

with the Social Concerns Committee

[back to top]
May 26:
Murray Hosts Food & Friends Soup Kitchen

  Murray hosts the Food & Friends Soup Kitchen every

  4th Saturday of the month, from 8 am -- 12:30 pm,
  at Centenary Methodist Church, located at 39 North
  Main Street in Attleboro.

Help out once for an hour!

You'll make all the difference!

We need volunteers for all shifts and tasks. Tasks we need help with:
Early (8 am -- 10 am)
  • Set up tables & chairs
  • Make sandwiches
  • Prepare main meal
  • Wash dishes
  • Serve coffee & juice
 Later (10:45 am -- 12:30 pm)
  • Plate meals
  • Serve guests
  • Breakdown tables & chairs
  • Wash dishes
  • Sweep & mop

For more information, please contact Stephanie Paquette at 

or (call or text) 401-603-8386.

Feel free to share this info with anyone who might be interested in helping out!

[back to top]

May 23:

to Unload Food Delivery Trucks

The Food Pantry receives food twice a month, and we need help receiving the delivery. Food pick-up times are 
the 2nd and 4th Wednesdays each month. The trucks need to be unloaded requiring some lifting. 
This is one way Murray reaches out and is visible in the community, but it takes many volunteers to receive and distribute the food. If there are any strong bodies available on those days, who would like a light workout, please contact:
Roger Boucher at 508-838-8249, or email at
Thank you!
May 31:
New Member Orientation Classes
  Are you interested in joining Murray Church?
  Come learn more about Unitarian Universalism,
  about Murray Church, and about the benefits of
  belonging to this faith community.

   Our first class will be held on Thursday, May 31st   in the John Murray Room at 7 pm, and the second
  class will be on Sunday, June 3rd, following
  worship in the John Murray Room.


New Member Sunday will be on June 10th.

  Please let Rev. Gretchen or LaChelle know if you
  are interested in participating and joining,
  508-222-0505 or

Childcare can be arranged by contacting Kavita Vansant  at by no later than Wednesday, May 16th.

This is a welcoming and affirming congregation, with membership open to all!

Looking for Furniture Donations

Our friends at AHOPE (Americans Helping Others ProsPEr) have been resettling a number of new families into our area and are in need of the following:
          • chairs for tables
          • coffee and end tables
          • kitchen tables and chairs
          • bureaus / dressers
          • lamps
          • pots & pans
          • small appliances
These new families include quite a number from Puerto Rico -- people whose homes have been totally destroyed or for whom electricity has not yet been restored.

 The good news is that AHOPE will come to you to pick up any furniture you have to donate.

Please contact Mayss Bajbouj at 508-496-7733 to schedule a furniture pick-up.

Jun. 8 & 9:
Seeking Donations for Relay for Life / Savers Event
The Rainbow Chasers are getting ready for Relay for Life at Norton High School on June 8th & 9th. We are collecting clothes and small household items. If you have items you want to donate, please contact Laurie Lawes at or call 508-243-3011 for directions on where to leave items.
Our goal is 1500 lbs of clothing! 

We are also recruiting team members if any one is interested. 

We thank you kindly in advance. 
Jun. 9:
You're Invited!

Looking for some family and adult fun? You're invited to the Opening Celebration of the Deborah and Roger Richardson Nature Preserve on Saturday, June 9th, 2018, 10 am -- 3 pm. There will be something there for everyone: gardeners, history-buffs, nature and music lovers; and nature scavenger hunts, geocaching and games for kids. Our latest addition is the bluegrass band, Neponset River Ramblers.

Charlie Adler, Roy Belcher and others have been working for several years on behalf of the Attleboro Land Trust to purchase and restore these beautiful woodlands, wetlands, and fields for preservation and public enjoyment.

A detailed schedule and description of activities can be found at

[back to top]
Jun. 13:                    From Green Sanctuary

To register for event click [HERE].

Presented by the Attleboro Area Sustain-Ability Group.

Did you buy this at Murray Church Holiday Fair?

If you did purchase this item, please contact LaChelle at 508-222-0505 or 

email to schedule pick up.



If furniture is not picked up by Friday, May 18th, Murray Church will donate it 

to AHOPE for refugee families.

[back to top]
continueThe Church... (continued)

We welcome in the stranger, and help our newcomers become more fully integrated into the fabric of our shared church life together. We journey with one another through some of life's most challenging and painful losses, as we also celebrate life's joys together, too. We bear witness to one another's beliefs and encourage one other to lifelong learning and further spiritual deepening. 

Our faith calls us to create a more just and loving world for all people, and many of us are dedicated to meaningful, sometimes uncomfortable anti-racism work as we help to build the world of which we dream.  

This is your church. And, in the four years I have worked alongside you, I am deeply impressed and grateful for everything so many of you do to nurture, care for and help to strengthen this church community. Whether you come to repair and paint, bake cookies, plant and tend to one of our gardens, sing in the choir, attend a discussion group, initiate and host a difficult, crucial conversation, serve as a leader on a committee or on the board, or perhaps teach Sunday School, you support the work of this church when you show up - when you show up for one another, and when you show up and share the gifts of your time, your gifts of talent, and your gifts of ongoing financial support. 

Ours is, indeed, a church that matters, very much. And, ours is a faith capable of healing and transforming one another, as we help to heal and transform the larger world. Murray Church is an essential alternative to the rising voices of intolerance and hate. And there is always room for more seekers to join us in the larger work of love.  

Let us continue to lean into the work of building beloved community. We won't get it right all the time.  No church does. But if we continue to show up for one another, in covenanted right relationship, we will be creating more love, more justice, together.   

Let us be willing to continue to take risks, to give one another the benefit of the doubt, to participate in challenging conversations, to share our authentic selves, and to treat one another with respect and loving kindness. Because we are a people, and a place, dedicated to naming and claiming our own unique experiences of ultimate mystery, awe and wonder. And, we are a people, and a place, dedicated to making a meaningful positive difference in our community, and in the larger world, together. 

Blessings to all for a wonderful Mother's Day weekend! Our Religious Services Committee has a very special service planned. I will be in Milwaukee for a few short days to celebrate not only Mother's Day with my parents, my brother and sister-in-law and nephew, but also to celebrate my father's 91st birthday.­­ I'll be back at church, per usual, next Tuesday.


In love and faith,
Rev. Gretchen